Hey people. Hope your 2011 is great. I am slowly feeling the year. I know from my last post I said this year is just okay. It’s not that bad. I really appreciate the feedback I got from my last post. You guyz are amazing. You really gave me something to think about.
This was a really tough decision. Like I said earlier on, I know it’s none of my business and normally I would mind my business, but this is a 2011 decision ( lol like the year has anything to do with it). I read each of your comments more than once and 48% of you suggested I should tell them while the other 48% suggested I should mind my business. The remaining 4 % wanted to see a picture (you are so on your own lol)
I thought about it for a while and I thought to myself if I were in their shoes I would want to know. I told them about it. Yes I did. Like I said it’s a 2011 decision and there is a saying that goes “the only thing constant in this world is change” and another one goes
“If we want to change the situation, we first have to change ourselves. And to change ourselves effectively, we first have to change our perceptions”. - Stephen R. Covey
See me drinking panadol for another man’s headache. Anyways I told them. Chic A is an outgoing person. She goes to almost every party ( she is a party rider, her fav quote is lets go there lol). I guess that is where she met her bf and I like I said from my last post. She has never been committed to one guy; she told me once that she never believes in putting all her eggs in one basket cos anything can happen. Her reaction when I told was, It’s no big deal. In her words “this things happen it’s not like a guy has not cheated on me before. She was glad I told her because she was actually getting serious with the guy. They have been going out for almost a year and she was really invested in the guy more than her the guys on the side. She also said they were both doing the same thing. She is just having fun. ( no harm no foul abi). Boy was I relieved. I could actually breathe a little. She actually thanked me and told me I was a friend she could count on. ( pheww thank you lord) That was easy..
Now chic B. Okay let me give you guyz a brief history of her. She can be outgoing, but like me she is kind of reserved and shy (believe it or not I am a shy person, but don’t mess with me oh lol). I have known her for a year plus now (compared to chic A who I met in 2008) since then we have become close. She is the direct opposite of chic A. She goes out with one guy at a time. She seems quiet, but when you get to know her she opens up to you. Her reaction when I broke the news to her. At first, she did not believe me. I wasn’t surprised and I didn’t push it ( before person use vex slap me) I let the information sink in and she asked me how I knew. I told her everything told you guyz from my last post. She goes maybe chic A is just a friend. I told her again and called a friend to confirm it. I did not tell her that the guy preferred the other chic oh. (I can’t give someone LOVEATTACK). To try and cut the long story short. She did not take the news well. I told her the news a few days ago and she hasn’t called me since then. I tried calling her, left several text messages. I mean it’s not like someone died now haba. I know people take news differently, but she has been going out with the guy for couple of months now. I feel bad that I am the bearer of bad news, but sometimes they say truth hurts and people need to hear it.
Chic B left a message for me this morning. She said she said she spoke to her boyfriend about it. He did not deny it neither did he apologize for his actions (again I wasn’t surprised). It’s better now than when she gets too serious with the guy. Imagine see how she is taking the news now what of if…… I don’t want to even think about it. She said she will call me later. I am hoping she feels better now. I know she is heartbroken. ( like the script – breakeven).
There are times you mind your business and let people find out things for themselves and there are times you just have to say something. I hope I did the right thing sha. I almost lost one ( like jay z’s song- lost one). I am tempted to send chic B this song by cee lo green- forget you..
I spoke the VSNC. She is doing great. She love her new town and of course she misses me dearly lol.( she get choice). The important thing is that she is fine. I don’t know if you guyz remember my dog, Mercedes. I did a whole post on him, well he died. I can’t believe I would go to naija and not see that dog again.
Have a lovely week people. I will see you guyz soon, I think I have some more gist to spare before…
Sunsetting Sugabelly
1 year ago
19 comments:
I think you made the right decision...bravo! Don't mind Chic B, like you said...everyone deals with things differently. I'm sure that she'll thank you very soon!
Sorry about your dog :-(.
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dnt think i can tell on anyone o o o o . i mean, its none of my business really b4 them go carry me settle scores.
sorry abt ur dog o.
lmaooo cee-lo forget you! You did go jo, and if they give you any wahala please let us know so we can give them anonymous beating!
ok, i was in the 4% group, I still want a picture!!!
Things turned out pretty ok.
Still don't get it how some girls fail to accept these things sometimes *smh*
you did the right thing. i am proud of you
Still want to see a picture BTW
lol...i'm glad it worked out kinda well. don't know what i would have done sha. happy new year dear.
Awww.. sorry about your dog!
looks like it worked out pretty well..she'll come around, like you said, she's just heartbroken and hopefully,will see what greater evil you saved her from..
Well, I have learnt a thing or two from this episode. Glad it all worked out well and I hope Chic B comes around.
Sorry about your dog and I still want to see your pic. :)
Sorry about your dog..
I think you did the right thing cos if Chic B had found on her own and she realized you knew all along, she will come with the angle "that you knew and you didn't tell her"
I commented oooo .. Small time now, u go say i no dey show! lol
Good move girl! You did the right thing oh.
I'm sorry about Mercedes :(
Ah BSNC the story teller iz back on blogsville!!! LOL--u still owe me skype u know!
Aww, sorry about ur dog :( , wud u b gettin anoda one?
As for the chics...I guess we all react to stuff differently...I sure hope chic B gets over it soon though..life goes on.
Glad u heard from VSNC...she no get choice true true :)
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Well done babes!Way to go I'm proud of you!:)...sometimes the truth hurts...but you said the truth in love and that is what matters.
EYA...RIP Mercedes
Thumbs up!, u did the right thing babes.
OMG! I love your blog and can't believe i'm on the sidelines as one of your faves! you've made my day :)
I totally admire your courage. You are truely a friend indeed.
Sorry about your dog...
Good to know your sister is well settled and enjoying her new town/school.
As for your friends...I think the most important factor is whether you feel @ peace...if you don't, then don't do it next time...personally, I think it's best to put yourself in their shoes...if you would like your friend to tell you if u were in a similar situation, then you've done the right thing...but that guy na wah oh...
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